Have you ever been faced with the question: If there really was a God, why would He
allow such painful things to happen to His children? I can perfectly recall the ache that
seemed to trace itself around the lines of an individual’s face as they spoke
these words to me. I could
immediately recognize that this was far less of a question, but more of the
imploring from a wounded heart.
The moment held me captive, and I found myself catapulted back into an
exact moment of life where my disabled heart lamented similarly. My experience was contrastive in
the fact that I had never doubted the existence of my Heavenly Father, but
rather became convinced that because of the consistent presence of tribulation
in my life, I was simply unloved by Him.
I supposed myself to be flawed and defective in such magnitude that I
was unfit and undeserving of His affections. My young, troubled mind could not comfortably decide upon
another explanation, and I came to believe it as truth. It is a bitter place to find one’s
self, but I don’t think that it is an uncommon place to be found.
We are consistently taught and encouraged through the
scriptures of our Father’s love for us, His children. We are reminded of the perfection of that love, and that it
outweighs any facet that we can attain to or find within this earthly
sphere. Hearing of this love, but
then experiencing the suffering and sorrows of life may lead us to believe that
a discrepancy exists, for surely love does not permit pain. It may even create a notion of the
miscalculation of His tender affections.
We may come to find ourselves, like I discovered myself at one time,
doubting in that love or in our worthiness of receiving it. Perhaps our mistrust has deepened and
intensified, and we lose our faith that there is even a God that exists at
all. As we extract ourselves from
the companionship of the Spirit, the mutterings of Satan may seem like a place
of similitude. Our souls ache for
compatibility and yearn to be in a place of belonging. They seek to be connected to another,
hence why we find that we are either bonded to the Lord, or linked with the
father of all lies. We are never
without a master. When we affix
ourselves with Satan, he will amplify our uncertainties. We will find worldly ideologies which
exaggerate our personally identified evidences. As this process heightens, our intrinsic testimonies which
we gained in the premortal life recede, and we become convinced that if there
truly was a God, one who loves us such as the scriptures describe, we would be
freed from afflictions by His solicitous hand.
Although our minds, and the surrounding society, may tell us
it is improbable, there is a way to find correspondence between Heavenly
Father’s love and His delivered adversities. It is an understanding that does take time and requires
patience. Faith in this area is ordinarily
gained line upon line, in place of an expeditious revelation. However, when our comprehension does
become paralleled with that of our Father, and we have the ability to see our
afflictions for what they truly are, we find that our love for Him surges, and
our ability to endure increases. We
identify that our tribulations actually bear witness of His existence, not
contrariwise. Additionally we are
reminded of one of the great truths of His love, that it is not conditioned or bestowed
to a select few. The Lord is no
respecter of persons. He does not pick and choose where His love will be
delivered, but gives to all of His children identically. The idea that allowing hardships and
pains to fall upon us as an indication of love may seem antithetical, but when
we define the purpose of trials, the two begin to correlate.
What conquered adversity can we not reflect upon without
distinguishing the refinements that were delivered because of their existence
in our lives? As we contemplate,
we may see strengths that blanketed weaknesses. We find an increase of knowledge in areas that were once
unfamiliar to us. We recognize
acquired abilities and perspectives that we were once unacquainted with. Regardless of the type, our
tribulations undoubtedly make us better.
The connection between afflictions and our Father’s love are explained
within these realizations. Our
most beloved Heavenly Father allows
trials to come upon us, that we may be projected towards perfection. Yes, the Lord is omnipotent. Yes, His hand has the ability to shield
us from suffering. Yes, He has the
power to remove any discomforts that may advance towards us. However, He will and does, permit
trials and tragedies to befall us.
Why would He do this to us, His cherished children? Does He do this because He is unable to
stop them from occurring due to a limited faculty? Does He allow this because His love falls short of rescue? Absolutely not. It is given because He does love us so completely, and He desires,
with every inch of His heart, for us to become who we are destined to be. We are His work, and we are His glory. He has a firm knowledge that without
tests and afflictions, progression would not occur. This understanding should not be hard for us to relate
to. What kind of a mortal parent would
prevent their child from developing through the stages of life and growth? In a temporal viewpoint we can see what
disadvantages would occur to someone who was never given the opportunity to
advance. As earthly parents we
would never hinder our children, even if it meant that they may suffer sorrows
throughout the course. If we are
imperfect and crave these things for our children, than how much more does our
Father in Heaven, who stands perfectly, want them for us? Tribulations are not indications of His
lack of existence, nor absence of His love. They are manifestations of His actuality and bear witness of
His devotions.
There are two types of trials that have been the most
difficult for me to align this understanding with throughout my life. The first is trials that are
experienced during times of worthy, righteous living. It may bewilder our hearts to receive such a test, when we
believe only blessings should be presented due to our faithful behaviors. During moments where we are devoting
all we have to the Lord and His kingdom, actively following and abiding by the
commandments in which He has outlined, the presence of these afflictions may
initially perplex us, and doubts may begin to appear. However, my experience with these types of tribulations has
given me the belief that these difficult moments, which originally seem mistimed,
are the Lord’s way of demonstrating His trust in our abilities, as well as
designing a way for us to enhance.
Let me share a specific example from my own life regarding these types
of circumstances.
My dear husband and I fell away from the Church, and were
unfaithful to the Lord for many years.
Through a series of blessed events, and through the redeeming power of
the Atonement and grace of our Savior Jesus Christ, we had the gift of
reentering the Gospel. We were
steadfastly dedicated. We had
reorganized our life patterns, had made individualized commitments, and were
striving to disconnect from worldly things. Our focal point truly was upon the Lord. As we continued forward, we labored to
be sealed in the temple. We ached
to have the blessings of eternal marriage, so much so that it was all the
seemed to consume our hearts.
During this time, we received miraculous news regarding a blessing we
had been longing for. We would be
expecting our first child. I was
overwhelmed with gratitude, and seemed to be continually upon my knees,
tearfully thanking the merciful Lord for the arrival of this most treasured
blessing. I remember the week we
prepared to enter the temple. Excitement
pulsed through my veins as I realized that the opportunity of entering into an
eternal covenant with my life love, and now with our first child which I
carried inside, was just days away. I was embarking towards my eternal family. My burning heart held exultation within
its walls which could never be described through mere words. The following day, I unexpectedly lost
our precious baby, and entered into a most trying time. I was devastated. A few days following, we were scheduled
to meet with the Stake President for the final signing of our temple recommends. I vividly recall entering the doorway
of the church. A plastered smile
labored to conceal my brokenness.
As we approached the door of his office, he stated that he would meet
with my husband first. I literally
felt my soul sigh relief at his request.
As the door was closed behind them, I sat alone in the dimly lit foyer,
head down. I remember being
fearful of the loyalty of my eyes, and worried that if they met someone walking
past, they may betray me and spill my repressed sorrow. Each moment seemed to linger, and I
remember thinking of how slowly the time seemed to pass. Abruptly, despair overflowed my heart,
and I found myself weeping. I
remember the moment vividly. I had
the strongest sense of urgency to look up. I initially resisted but the feeling remained and carried
with it tender encouragement. As I
lifted my head, my eyes were met with the face of my Savior. His picture hung on the adjacent
wall. My mourning soul was wrapped
in immediate warmth. I felt Him
palpably standing at my side. I
remember reiterating these words over and over to Him: Why Lord? I am
faithful. Why now? The experience that followed is sacred
to my heart, but His words were never more clear: It will strengthen
you. This was made to prepare
you.
Since this experience I have been given continuous
opportunities for growth, many of which seem to be presented during moments of
my strongest faithfulness. I
believe that this is no coincidence.
These are the moments where the Lord is stretching us. Our acts of devotion to His commands
and requests, have enabled Him to trust in us. He places these trials in our paths as a gesture of His
confidence in who we are, and where we are in our lives. What greater act of love can be shown
than placing faith in one’s abilities?
Trials will be given in response to our disobedience, but they will also
be presented, and perhaps more frequently so, during times of obedience. These are the tests, which if endured faithfully,
will elevate us the greatest.
The second type of trial has been taxing on my heart. It is the type of affliction that
produces a suffering in which there seems to be no final destination. They are continuous miseries that cling
to us throughout life, perhaps even worsening as time marches onward. These trials may seem so wrong and so
incredibly unjust that it is hard to wrap our minds around the meaning for them
in our lives. A majority of these
tribulations come by way of another’s actions or lack thereof. These are the types of hardships that
play a significant role in our loss of faith in the love of our Father. Because these burdens are hard to
understand, temporally or spiritually, it can be difficult to explain why the
Lord permits them in our lives. However,
may I offer two suggestions that have come to me by way of my experiences with
these types of trials, which may offer a solution.
The
first, the Lord will never take away free agency from one of His children. Never. He promised to allow each of us to make our own decisions,
and that He would never force, nor interfere with the choices that we make here
on earth. This means that people
will make choices that produce consequences that are severe. They will be required to endure these
repercussions, but we may also have a part in surviving them. The part of coping with ramifications
that have nothing to do with our own actions, can be the most difficult to
manage. However, the promise to
remember during these times of misery, is that all things will be made up to us when we return home again. Every single inequitable circumstance
we suffer, will be rectified. Our
Savior will heal our overwhelmed hearts in such a way that the very memory of
our sufferings will be dispelled from our minds. Anything that was taken or not given, will be supplied. Anything that has deformed us-whether
it be physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual-will be mended. At times in my life, having this
assurance memorized has been the only thing that has kept me standing.
The second, and perhaps most significant opportunity we are
given, through these burdens we gain the unique ability to empathize with
another who is called to endure the same vexatious path we have once
trodden. Although this ability may seem initially
insignificant, its impact is momentous, and its greatness should never be
undermined. The closer we come to
mastering this attribute, the nearer we come to our Savior. Reflect on the Garden of
Gethsemane. Why did the Savior choose to suffer every pain, grief,
stress, or torment, that we may encounter in this life? We know that He suffered that we may
have repentance, but He underwent all the agony He did, so that He would have a
perfect knowledge of our sufferings. He yearned to carry us, no matter how
extensive the depths of our despair would be. He ached to be the one that would sustain us through the
very darkest of nights. He wanted
to know exactly how to succor us, and not because someone had told Him how it
felt, but because He, Himself, had survived it. He loved us so much that He never wanted us to have to say, No one can understand what I am enduring. Because of this intense desire, He
permitted wretched misery to come upon Him, so great that it caused Him to
bleed from every pore. When we
abide trials, no matter how unbalanced they may be, we are preparing ourselves
to be an instrument in the Lord’s hands in comforting another. Because we have experienced similarities
regarding the torture they exist in, we can aid them unlike any other. We can partner with our Savior in
delivering tangible relief to their heartaches. For those who are presented with harsh and unrelenting
tribulations, this knowledge speaks volumes to the responsibility we have in
ministering unto others. Because
we have been given much, even if what is being presented is a heart wrenching affliction
in which to learn, we, too, must give.
There is one thing I am certain of, this mortal experience is
not called a test for no reason. Life
is not easy, in fact, most times we will find that it is incredibly challenging. Tribulations will be appointed unto us
where the magnitude seems so great, the sufferings so severe, that we may cry
out that we are unable to bear such a burden. During these moments we may seek for a clarification as to
why they are being appointed unto us.
We may feel forsaken by our Father in Heaven, feeling distanced from His
love. We may even become so
discouraged, that we may find doubts conquering our faith in Him. During these times we must remember
that our eyes are only viewing the temporal, our hearts are only feeling the
mundane. These trials will work as
a refining fire, discarding our deficiencies and revealing our divinity. Our Heavenly Father is pouring love
upon us, and as He is allowing us to become perfected, He is unveiling our
pathway home to Him. Although some
of these moments of misery seem to have no conclusion, as we look back upon
them from the eternities, they will become almost microscopic. It can be hard to remember with
mortality surrounding us, but we must persevere in faith and patience, for the
blessings that follow our devoted endurance cannot be fathomed. Our earthly perspectives, no matter how
fantastic our imagination, could never conceive such glory. It is not based upon a matter of hope,
it is formed from the literal promises of the Lord, as committed in His words:
Ye cannot behold with
your natural eyes, for the present time, the design of your God concerning those
things which shall come hereafter, and the glory which shall follow after much
tribulation. For after much tribulation come the blessings. Wherefore the day cometh that ye shall
be crowned with much glory. (D&C 58:3-4)
Keep your eyes fixed upon these blessings. Allow trials to increase your faith,
not diminish it. And above all,
race to the side of another whose burdens weaken their hearts, and confuse
their souls. Be the one to hold
their hand as they enter the purifying fire which will encircle them. Be the fortification that will
provide them with courage to withstand its paralyzing blaze, that they may walk
from it refined, closer than ever before in returning from whence they
came. Home. He’s waiting.
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